Are you a Martyr or a Muse?

We are a society of complainers, no? We hem and haw at the weather, gripe about work, gossip about friends, family, boyfriends, as if, we’ve taken on the role of martyr. We fuss that our life isn’t where we want it to be – it becomes a TRAGEDY; the very fabric of who we “think” we are, and somewhere along the line, we have disabled our humor factor.

We walk through our day whining about how the day is going to be awful, and it all began during the tragic moment when you stubbed your toe on the way to the bathroom to brush your teeth; whoops out of toothpaste. Son of a @#$!

For example I work with a woman, who on a daily basis, lives on the stage of conflict by intense complaining and what almost seems like boasting about her mysterious maladies. Nothing is right, the weather is never perfect and her health seems to never be good. It’s as if she is creating her own afflictions.

Along our human development, we’ve lost the innocence and pure joy we once had as little kids. Have you ever watched a child play in the park? Ever have a conversation with a 4 year old about all the silly words they can create? They are the most truthful and joyful beings you’ll ever come across.  Everything to them is serious and at the same time joyful. Even conflict doesn’t last in their cute little hearts.

Well, in YOUR cute little heart still lives the spirit of that child you once were, and you too can regain that innocence and joy that once lived consistently in your heart. YOU, under all the grievances, are actually pure joy, love and sexiness.

Do you know someone or have you been with someone who can walk into a room and drain the life force out of it? Notice how the energy shifts and the whole experience leaves you feeling exhausted?  Sometimes you can’t even get two words in edge-wise. Are you guilty of the same actions? Well, here are 3 Thoughtful Strategies that you can use NOW to help you  become a better communicator.

1. Ask First, Talk Later. Think about what you want to vent about first then venting by permission. Venting by Permission is actually a healthy way of clearing your mind and sorting out some confusion while not suffocating someone else with your intense energy. Ask first, talk later.
2. It’s not your responsibility to be a care-giver to a complainer. When someone does something that makes you upset, it’s important to use your words and let them know how it made you feel, but if it’s a constant occurrence, it is not your duty to keep after them. It’s exhausting work keeping up with a nagging Nellie.
3. Carve out a path for yourself and call it, My Greatness Path and start exploring the things that make you, you – what makes you great and what can you do to make yourself even greater. The first step towards honing your greatness is by resolving some of those inner conflicts that have taken refuge in your heart.

So, do what you can to enable the humor factor in your life. Laugh, Laugh and Laugh some more. Oh and keep on laughing!  Grab my FREE weekly Naked Truth About Dating Podcast, Newsletter and Special report. http://www.TheGayGuysLovecoach.com