What is your Hectic life revealing to you?

Yesterday, I spent the whole day resting on my comfortable couch, eating delicious Mexican food, designing workshops and setting things in motion for my upcoming Single Gay Guy’s Bootcamp. I jumped on my computer and wrote an article, answered emails and then sweat my butt off in my ZUMBA class – there’s a theme here.

Doesn’t sound like I was resting much, does it?

Well, from college classes, to preschool work, to helping single gay men fine tune their dating and life challenges, AND taking my coaching practice to a whole new level for 2010, all things I am passionate about – this was supposed to be my day to rest, reload and recharge.

But I still wasn’t resting. Now, this is where you notice a theme…

I mean, we have our jobs, our careers, volunteer work, own a businesses, families, hobbies, the gym and our own personal conflicts that show up from time to time. We have health problems, emotional challenges and financial worries.

Wouldn’t you like to just turn it off for a day? Close down your thinking shop for a much needed rest?

I mean, REALLY, turn it off…

Let me ask you, what would your life look like, right now, if you could take a small break; a short reprieve from your day to day life, on a day to day basis?

You’re probably in shock right now RECLAIMING your belief that, it’s IMPOSSIBLE!  “I take vacations,” you shout!

I know. You take a much needed vacation from your hectic life. You take vacations, but are you really resting? You’re touring, eating out and seeing the sites. You make a huge list of stuff to do on vacation. THE LIST – the list that helps you get organized, yet, at the same time holds you to enormous pressure to get it ALL done!

We never seem to escape those to do lists, right? I hear lots of people say that they could use a vacation from their vacation. No matter how hard we try to take a break, we’re not breaking where it really counts.

Besides, we take a week or two off, to “rest” and its back to the same grind. So, where’s the time for dating and networking to meet eligible men, and is there a way to bring a micro-vacations to your everyday life?

What I’m getting at, is about carving out a niche each day. Maybe to write in a journal (good time to start one), meditate, spend time in the park walking your dog, going hiking – doing something where you can be with your thoughts and breathe. Breathe, dammit, breathe!

When the roses stop growing.

I know, it’s easy to get caught up in life’s “stuff “and completely forget about smelling the roses – they do smell amazing – they do! When you DO stop to smell the roses, you’re still texting, talking on the cell phone, thinking about the argument you had a week ago, what you’re having for dinner and what it be like to have a boyfriend. I do it all the time, but what I don’t do is forget what it takes to turn it off and seek joy in the stillness of it all- it makes a world of difference.

We are constantly recycling thoughts.

As you know, I help single gay men discover their life’s purpose as well helping them heal from emotional pain. The work is rewarding, and the guys I help, walk away with a new lease on life and love. It blows my mind.

Yes, my title is Dating Expert, however, let’s face it, I can give you all the valuable advice, tips and secrets to meeting your true love, but if you are not loving yourself FIRST, the tools I offer, aren’t going to help you too much. Make sense?

The first step to loving yourself is taking a break. Clearing away the things in your life that are taking up room and things that you are not 100% passionate about. Know you have a choice. You have a choice to go from “I don’t know why I am meeting the same guys and going on bad dates to I am attracting the men I want to date into my life and dating has never been so fun as it is NOW!”

Live, laugh, REST!

Your friend,

Greg Halpen

The Gay Guy’s Love Coach