I needed to pump up my life, my coaching and my business in a uniquely profound way. I mean,
my life is pretty darn amazing, I have to admit. I wake up EVERY morning with the zest of life, ready to face what the day has in store with me.

I walk throughout my day with an air of freedom and confidence that totally blows ME away. I’m dating some really amazing men who fit the vision I have created for my ideal Mr. Right! It’s happening.

So guys, as you begin the New Year in your love life, do you have a theme or a direction
for your life planned out? I’ve decided to do this annually and it makes a huge difference in my own life focus and with the clients that I work with.

This year, is the year of Profound Visibility.

One thing I know about myself is, that, I was a person who hid a lot. No matter what I thought I was doing in my life to shine and that even includes the men I’ve taught along the way, I was still hiding.

Then I realized something quite chilling. Guys, if I want to make important positive differences in the lives of more single gay men, and really, the world – I mean in a profound way, I needed to really look at where was hiding in my life.

Well, to give you an example of what I mean, here are some ways I’m increasing my Profound Visibility.

1. I am coming out of the closet as a Zen practitioner. For some reason, somewhere in my sometimes thinking monkey mind,  I created the belief that my subscribers would unsubscribe and  clients would run for the hills if I infused my Zen work into the  ‘single gay guy’ work that I do. I found it’s the total opposite reaction. In fact, most guys are drawn to this kind of work.

So, suffice it to say I will be mixing in Zen lessons into the work that I do; a more modern approach, that’s fun and exciting.

2. I am ditching the podcast, for now, and will do special Life Shift Videos and what that means is, I will produce short  videos teaching you exactly what you can do make HUGE profound shifts in your thinking and belief systems around love.

3. Collaborate with some of the top experts in the field of dating, relationships, healing and Zen. I want to unveil my heart and open up to more people who have already made amazing positive differences in the world.  I want to reach in and help them spread their amazing life’s work.

4. Kicking up my spiritual practicing by becoming a student of Zen in Syracuse, NY. There is a beautiful Zendo in the small city I live in. I’ve already been in contact with the Roshi there,  and it looks like I will be starting soon. I’m pretty excited!

5. The ever so brilliant speaker within. I am launching my speaker self out into the world. I must be totally honest with you and humbly say that even though the men I work with one-to-one rant and rave about my teachings, getting up in front of hundreds of guys kinda pulls at my anxiety strings. But like the force that I am, I’m always willing to take on and master a new challenge.

Those are some of the ways that I am stepping out into the light to allow who I am to be visible.

Most importantly, as the year progresses, I will be making some amazing changes to the structure of my coaching practice and  programs, so you will be able to interact more with the website.

The Gay Guy’s Love Coach Bottom Line: 2010 is my year of Profound Visibility and I am committed to stepping out on the front line to help my subscribers and clients thrive, not only in LOVE, but in LIFE!

What are YOU going to do to become more visible in the world and importantly in the world of LOVE?

Until next time…

All the best for Profound Visibility in 2010!

Your friend,

Greg Halpen
www.TheGayGuysLoveCoach.com

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Hey, guys, this is Greg Halpen from TheGayGuysLoveCoach.com and welcome to the Naked Truth About Dating – this is undoubtedly the most progressive podcast on dating advice for single gay men, that you’ll ever listen too. (You can skip to the bottom to listen to the Podcast)

You know, dates, especially the first few can be pretty daunting. You arrive nervous and anxious and feeling like you have been put under the microscope for scrutinizing.

You’re like, “OMG, I can’t believe I’m doing this – I’m, I’m sharing myself with another human being – Head Talk – Head Talk -  Head Talk!”

There’s something about feeling like we’re being judged or possibly rejected, that keeps us from being in the moment and enjoying all that’s present.

As if this unknown force has taken over your ability to communicate freely and have fun and mostly, guys, listening to your intuition….

Here are a few cool secrets, that I use and my clients use to help them have the best dating experience ever.

1. Ok, first – Don’t make the first, 2nd , 3rd,  dates such a drawn out event.  Make the first few dates light;  Maybe by agreeing that it will be a coffee or a dessert date.

Baby steps guys – Keep it short and simple and initiate your exit in a calm and direct way. Often times guys make the first date really long and intense.

Dating is about exploring each other’s worlds. This will show green flags of independence and individuality on your part.

2. Hopefully beforehand you know a little about the guy you are dating or going on the date with. Take the attention of yourself by being genuinely interested in something he does in life.

3. and don’t forget to breathe…stay in tune to your breathing.

4. Your Gut is telling you something and maybe you wont know until after the first few dates, but your heart is letting you know whether or not he’s a match for you – but I want to warn you that your HEAD will also try and get in there and tell you differently.

5. Stay out of your head. I know your thoughts are running 500 hundred miles a minute – everything from what happened when you were 10 years old, what you had for dinner the night before to how much you are judging the very words you are saying.

Well, guys, thanks for listening ad Happy Thanksgiving!

The Past is History, The Future is a Mystery and The present is a Gift!

Listen here:

Until next time…

Your friend,

Greg Halpen

I LOVE storms!

Then all of a sudden….

P stormed into my room, like some frantic house wife who couldn’t find her bottle of pills — demanding the computer to email our landlord about a leak in the ceiling. You see, last night it stormed pretty severely and it flooded a small portion of P’s bedroom upstairs that made it’s way downstairs into the living room.

Me? I can sleep through almost anything. It’s a gift, what can I say?

Now, as I tried to keep my cool and channeled everything I learned in therapy, I blew a major gasket.

Now, it isn’t rocket science, but what happens when someone, who is in a deep sleep, and then suddenly jolted into chaos?  Now–call me split personality crazy, but shouldn’t he have called her? Shouldn’t he have realized, while screaming that I was inconsiderate, that calling Diana or waiting to email in the morning would have been a better idea? OR better yet, that I need some wake up space? Yes, water was coming in, but is it cause such nastiness?

Well, his argument was, it was midnight and too late to call the landlord. Um….HELLO!!

It’s not that I was being inconsiderate. When I sleep, I sleep deeply and when woken up it takes me a little while to collect myself or even coherently function. So, when I asked P. if he could take the computer outside is when he started to throw attitude, remarks and comments.

It went something like this:

P: Muah Muah Muah Mauh

Greg: It’s ok. calm down. stop yelling at me.

P: Muah Muah Muah Mauh

Greg: (get’s out of bed and follows Pete to the hallway) Ok – P, what happened?

P’s Mom: Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah WATER Blah Blah and you Blah Blah

Greg: Oh – now two people are yelling at me? ( I turn around, walk back into my room and slam the door off it’s hinges)

Finally, I sat at the edge of my bed, took in some long deep breathes until pooch and I found our rhythm and fell back to sleep.

Moral of the story?

Never wake me up like that again becasue I wont take any prisoners!